Archive for the ‘Workplace’ Category

Latest Mars Venus Executive Training Press Release

Wednesday, June 29th, 2011

For Release

June 29th, 2011

New Executive Logo

Mars Venus Executive Training Success at SHRM Expo

Mars Venus Executive Training, a global training organization, attended the Society of Human Resource Management (SHRM) Expo held in Las Vegas, Nevada this past week. Their presence at the event proved to be a huge success, offering the executive team the opportunity to present their newest training programs based on Gender Intelligence in the workplace to human resources and training representatives from companies around the world.

Mars Venus Executive Training has developed an online Gender Intelligence test (GQ test), the test was available at the booth. Attendees were able to complete the test and get a feel for their Gender Intelligence Quotient. John Gray, Ph.D. was also present at to discuss the importance of Gender Intelligence and its impact on the corporate environment as well as to sign complimentary copies of his book, “Why Mars and Venus Collide.”

“I was very impressed with the caliber of the attendees at the expo and how passionate they are about their corporate teams and their specific training needs. Each attendee I spoke with, whether an HR representative, a sales manager or a small business owner had a strong connection with the importance of Gender Intelligence in the workplace and how it would benefit their teams,” commented John Gray, Ph.D. “As I spent more time with each professional discussing their training needs it became clear to me that in today’s corporate environment the need for this type of executive training is greater now than ever before. The event solidified my passion and diligent work over the last 30 years and the importance of taking this information into the executive arena.”

Mars Venus Executive Training is a global training company founded on the principles of best-selling author and speaker, John Gray, Ph.D. His 30 years of experience in the fields of psychology, relationships, communication, personal success, and productivity in the workplace, and wealth generation have made this company a world leader in corporate training. Mars Venus Executive trainers can be found around the world, including United States, Central America, Europe, the Middle East, India, China and Australia.

Memorial Day Marks the Procession of Future Leaders

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

As an American part of our tradition around Memorial Day weekend is to honor the sacrifices made by patriots to earn our nation’s freedom. It is often celebrated by visiting the graves of fallen airmen, marines, soldiers, and sailors. Many families also choose to celebrate this day of remembrance with their families, pausing to remember those who give us our freedom of speech, religion, and assembly. As newly minted college graduates enter our workforce today, let us remember why our country is so great.

This week the five Service Academies: The United States Air Force Academy, The United States Coast Guard Academy, The United States Naval Academy (my Alma matter), The United States Merchant Marine Academy, and The United States Military Academy will commission young officers at the same time as granting these young men and women college degrees.

The Citadel and Virginia Military Institute, as well as other private colleges and state universities with ROTC (Reserve Officers’ Training  Corps) programs will also grant commissions to a few of the elite leaders of our nation.

Let us not forget the enlistments of adolescents’ fresh from graduating high school. They provide the backbone and strength of our nation’s highly-trained precision-based military.

These men and women have chosen to volunteer a minimum of 8-10 years of their life for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to ensure our nation remains safe and secure so that other people may choose to pursue jobs in the professions of their choice.  Some of these brave, courageous men and women will give their lives. At this point in history, our military holds the highest numbers and levels of trained professionals both in the enlisted and officer ranks. What is it that puts our service members a cut about the rest of the world’s militaries? And how can these traits impact the other young professionals entering America’s workforce today?

If you’re just now entering the workforce, or have been there for some time why not reflect a moment on whether you possess these characteristics, and what you can do to make your organization better:

Leadership by Example

Many of the national leadership programs preparing young high school and college graduates follow the same philosophy that to lead you must do so by example. Actions speak much louder than words. Who would you rather follow, someone directing you from afar, or someone that is standing right next to you as you overcome challenges? Leading by example holds not only the leader accountable, but also those underneath him or her, because a leader’s credibility depends on following through and carrying out actions that mirror the vision, purpose, and mission statement of their organization.

Valuing Ethics and Character

When you take an oath to be a leader who will put God, country, and others before self, you require a person to take responsibility for the growth of those enlisted in his or her charge. America is a melting pot of diverse cultures, religions, and races. Its’ strength lies in its diversity. And, at the heart of every individual lies an internal compass, which guides him or her in what’s right or wrong. The strength of a person’s character depends on how cognizant a person is of upholding a common code of ethics so that everyone’s rights are both honored and protected. Justice prevails. Honor and respect are a given, and consequences are enforced when one trails from an organization’s rules of operation. Think about how your organization respects the differences between men and women, and how you honor this dynamic.

Decisions Made at the Lowest Tactical Level

Many lessons have been learned from those who have gone before us. And today’s military is a powerhouse, because it has chosen to drill lessons learned after every tactical and operational engagement—whether it is in training or during war. Lessons learned not only helps us from repeating the same mistake it also honors those that came before us and the lives lost during our fight for freedom. One of the biggest lessons learned during the last fifty years is that decisions must be entrusted to those fighting on the ground. There are rules of engagement in the military, and because of the emphasis on developing every single service man and woman’s leadership potential this is a reality in our military. Other militaries require decisions to be made by senior military officials, and when time is of the essence the decisions tend to be too late at the cost of lives and equipment lost. When organizations are able to entrust leadership decisions to be made at the lowest level, then their actions, and therefore their responses are in real-time. Something that is much needed in our technology-driven society.

Highly Skilled Leaders in Emotional Intelligence

The last area that the military excels at—and one I attest to as a former Marine Corps officer—is acting on the premise people are your high value asset. When it comes down to getting a job done, it is not the weaponry or equipment which matters, it is the people. The more emotionally attuned you are to gender communication styles, personality typing, active listening, and both verbal and nonverbal communication—the better you are able to lead, because you know how to connect on a genuine level with others. The personal connection with everyone you meet is your most important capability over time. Implementing systems and leading from the front requires inspiration to greatness not motivation from behind.

Lyndsay Katauskas, MEd

Mars Venus Coaching

Corporate Media Relations

Asserting Your Boundaries at Work

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

Mars Venus Coaching provides many tools for working successfully in the workplace and managing your relationships at work. It is hard to see the good in others if they have been taking advantage of your hard work ethic. It’s difficult to change the “rules” of who does what, when you’ve been accepting the work of others, because everyone “assumes” that you’re just better at it. Why rock the boat, right? Except you’ve just about had it. Going to work is not joyful, and you may feel a palpable cloud descend when you go to work. So, what can you do to change the dynamics? Re-examine your job description to make sure you’re being paid for what you do in a typical day. Did you know based on your gender, there may also be miscommunication going on between you, your co-workers and your boss?

Re-Set Your Boundaries

Write Out Who Does What

  1. Make a list of the tasks you are required to do based on your job description, and any recent performance evaluations you’ve received.
  2. Make a second list of the tasks that have been added since you accepted your job, that are not a part of your job description.
  3. Make a third list of the tasks you’ve taken on that are other’s responsibility.

Set Your Intention

  1. Make a fourth list of what tasks fit your job description that also incorporates what you’ve agreed to do in writing or verbally with your boss.
  2. Look at your fourth list and put an asterisk (*) by the tasks you verbally agreed to do—and decide if these tasks are up for negotiation.

Why? In your contract you work X number of hours a day, the tasks you perform should match your position, and should be able to be fit within the hours you work each day. If you are over-tasked, then it’s time to renegotiate your terms.

  1. Decide what the best approach is for your workplace to renegotiate your terms.

This is where you are going to discuss face-to-face the discrepancies between what you do, and what you are paid to do. This is where you say, “I haven’t minded helping you do (your) work in the past, but I have to re-focus on my responsibilities and priorities.” This is where you offer to train them on what you have been doing for them, but then you return the responsibility to them. You may request a meeting via email, but it is best to re-negotiate in person. Take your lists and a written agenda with you to clarify the boundaries you are redefining. Choose what’s best for you, a:

  1. Formal meeting with you and your boss.
  2. Informal meeting with you and your boss.
  3. Formal meeting with you and your co-worker.
  4. Informal meeting with you and your co-worker.

When you’re figuring out the best approach, remember to be tactful not accusatory. You either prefer to communicate in a passive-aggressive style or passive style. The best form of communication is assertive—when you are able to be open, honest, forth-right, tactful, and the other person is able to stay on the same page as you while you’re communicating.

Non-Verbals Count Too!

Pay attention to if you are slouching, avoiding eye contact (your culture and race also affect what’s appropriate or the norm), mumbling, fidgeting, using too much hand movement—it all affects how the other person interprets what you’re verbally saying to them.

When I help my clients identify how to get what they want at work using Dr. John Gray’s Mars Venus Coaching system based on goal setting, 90 day plans, and understanding relationship dynamics they are often surprised and amazed at how being cognizant of gender communication dynamics at play helps them set and keep their boundaries when they interact with others at work.

Gender Differences in Communicating

Typically…Men prefer to communicate to solve problems.

…Women prefer to communicate to connect with others.

If a man feels attacked or threatened, based on the wiring in his brain he will do 1 of 2 things, because an increase in stress causes him to be more single-task oriented:

  1. He will either fight back if he thinks he knows the answer or can solve the problem.
  2. He will remove himself from the situation, disengage, and ignore the problem until he has unwound and then figures out how to solve the problem (or continues to ignore the situation, because it is not a big enough “problem” yet for him).

If a woman feels attacked or threatened, based on the wiring in her brain she will do 1 of 2 things, because an increase in stress causes more cross-talk between the left and right hemispheres of her brain:

  1. She will want to talk it out, ask questions, connect to others to make sure everyone is okay. She may not necessarily resolve the issue, she’s just talking to better understand the situation and all the dynamics at play.
  2. She will become more emotional, because blood flow in her brain is making her respond to how the issue will affect everyone else good or bad.

Knowing these tendencies, women can approach men by presenting a problem with a solution already present, i.e. the list of tasks you agree to be responsible for, offering to re-train co-worker, and justification for redefining job description. In turn men can approach women, i.e. with a list of tasks open for negotiating knowing they may need to discuss all the dynamics, with an answer not necessarily a part of this discussion, but forthcoming if she’s given a chance to connect first with you as a person. These are generalities, but they help identify how a request for redefining boundaries may be taken by other’s in your workplace as you set about assertively renegotiating your job.

Lyndsay Katauskas, MEd

Mars Venus Coaching

Corporate Media Relations

Working Your Relationships at Work

Friday, March 11th, 2011

Back in 1992 Dr. Gray provided an easy way to understand how men and women communicated differently. Back then if we wanted better relationships, we were encouraged to learn the other’s dialect so we could speak the same language. Now, in 2011, we understand the research behind why we communicate differently. The message is now more urgent than ever. Not only are women not climbing the corporate ladder, but our actions of forcing women to assimilate into a man’s communication pattern cause irreversible damage to women’s bodies, and the families we are currently growing. It is imperative for a cultural shift to occur in the corporate world from the unexamined assumption and unrealistic expectation men and women should be treated the same. Dr. John Gray’s latest books explain the reasoning and research behind why men and women communicate differently based on our physiology, specifically the ways our bodies respond differently to stress, and solutions to keep our stress levels low.

Did you know when women are at work they produce testosterone just like men? Testosterone does not reduce women’s stress levels; women need oxytocin to do this. Men reduce their stress by producing testosterone. However, to reduce stress it takes longer for men to produce more testosterone in greater quantities than the oxytocin hormone women need to reduce stress. Men don’t have enough time to replenish their testosterone, and excess testosterone in women’s bodies and their penchant to care for everyone else before themselves first prevents women from producing the requisite oxytocin to banish low grade stress/cortisol in the body.

The easiest way for men to increase testosterone is relax their muscles by sitting down. Also, when men disengage and either “do nothing” or shift gears to another task they are producing testosterone. Asking a man to do something during this time when the stress-producing hormone, cortisol, is pumping through his veins increases his stress hormone cortisol, thus stopping testosterone production. After a stressful situation at work men must be left alone, rather than talk it out. Typically, men will resurface and reappear when they have done nothing or temporarily shifted gears (remember this replenishes their stress-reducing hormone testosterone). It is then they are able to talk and put forth a solution to the problem.

For women, when under stress, they reduce stress by talking it out, connecting, and releasing their emotions. This is counter-intuitive if they are dealing with a male co-worker. Likewise, if women are allowed to verbally work through the stressor sifting all the factors, oxytocin kicks in, cortisol exits her body, and she keeps going. This often makes men uncomfortable, because men tend to solve problems if a dilemma is aired. Women under stress do not need or want solutions. Women’s limbic system activates under stress making them more emotional. At work this is seen as unprofessional, but this is the way women are wired. And, their unique serotonin brain patterns under stress allows them at the same time to be more capable of problem-solving by multi-tasking and linking all facets of the problem to everyone involved in the decision-making process.

Previously, women lived in organic and connected communities engaged in rearing both their own and their neighbor’s children. The constant state of nurturing, and connecting through talking, incorporating one another in decision making, and helping one another out with similar tasks gave a constant flood of oxytocin. Not so today.

Today’s world is now so fast-paced, and full of daily low-grade stressors, both men and women have excess cortisol (fight or flight hormone) constantly in their bodies. When there is a constant flood of cortisol the body is unable to manufacture enough of the stress reducing hormones. Both disease and infertility are on the rise due to both genders at the end of the day being unable to re-generate enough stress reducing hormones to live a long, well-balanced life. All of these issues go back to one thing only, and that is how the current expectations of male-oriented patterns impact the quality of relationships both at work and at home. It should not be a question of women assimilating into a “man’s” world. It should be a question of how we can alter the culture in the corporate arena to best embrace the unique styles of gender communications to have the most productive and efficient company.

If men and women paid attention to the unique way they reduce their own stress, and respected the opposite sexes preferred method to reduce stress many problems would be solved.

Unfortunately, while women are constantly producing testosterone while at work, when they get ready to come home after a hard day they are unable to produce their stress reducing hormone, oxytocin, because of the excess testosterone and high levels of cortisol. When women are rushed, or when expectations are attached for her to nurture or give (instead of doing so freely) oxytocin is inhibited. When women get home, their stress levels continue to rise limiting oxytocin production. So while men are able to begin rejuvenating their stress reducing hormone (testosterone) when they stop work for the day, women are unable based on their physiology to increase their stress-reducing hormone (oxytocin). This is a problem we must fix. We need to let men rest, and let women nurture and be nurtured while at work and at home.

Lyndsay Katauskas, MEd
Mars Venus Coaching
Corporate Media Relations

Coach Testimonial for Becky Albiol – Ocala, Florida

Friday, January 14th, 2011

Becky Albiol TestimonialWhat a great testimonial! Thank you Christina and great work Becky! For more information on Becky Albiol, visit her profile here.

Coach Spotlight – Robyn Hollands, UK & Australia

Monday, December 20th, 2010

Robyn Hollands

Robyn has close to 20 years experience in corporate arts and entertainment – as a musician and in management. As a manager, Robyn began her career in Public Relations/Communications and moved into Business Development/Fundraising for Universal Music, Melbourne Symphony Orchestra and the Australian Broadcasting Corporation in Australia, and the Barbican Centre and Somerset House Trust in central London, UK. Robyn has two university qualifications – a diploma in Education and a degree in Arts.

Robyn’s passion for coaching stems from her broad experience in supporting, mentoring and managing corporate men and women in both the public and private sector https://herenapotheek.nl/. Guiding them through their career, assisting them to achieve their personal and professional goals and to have the lifestyle they want. Robyn demonstrates personal motivation and discipline and a high level of professionalism.

Click Here To Visit Robyn’s Profile

Brand New Pricing Options on Mars Venus E-Workshops

Tuesday, December 7th, 2010

Now, for the first time ever, you can benefit from taking one of the famous Mars Venus classes from the comfort of your own computer. For years, Mars Venus workshops have helped people from all over the world improve relationships at any stage of their life with the opposite sex, as well as with their children, family members and co-workers. Our online eWorkshops provide simple, practical tools and insights to effectively manage stress and improve relationships at all stages and ages.

These live webinars are based on the same impactful workshops that John and his personally-trained coaches have given throughout the world, and which have positively changed hundreds of thousands of lives. Now you get everything you would get at one of our live, in-person events: certified Mars Venus Coach -presenter, John Gray audio segments, PowerPoint slides, workbook, exercises and certificate of completion, from the convenience of your own computer.

If you are not quite ready to participate in one of our eWorkshops right now, then we urge you to sign-up to receive free information, insights and tips on any, or all, of our Mars Venus Coaching eCourse subjects.

BRAND NEW PRICING

Coach Spotlight – Rosa Botran of Guatemala

Wednesday, November 17th, 2010

Rosa & John

Rosa recently attended the Mars Venus Coach Induction Training here in Las Vegas as a trainer. She was certified at that training as an official Mars Venus Coaching Trainer. Congratulations Rosa! Below is her Bio in Spanish and English.

Rosa María Botrán ha sido el tipo de persona que siempre ha buscado la manera de ayudar a otras personas. Una experiencia en su vida le enseñó una gran lección: Atento, no se sabe en qué momento vas a tocar la vida de alguien más. Esto la lleva a aprender nuevas formas y técnicas para asistir a otras personas a crear una mejor vida. Ella ha participado en varios seminarios de desarrollo personal, lo que la ha ayudado, no sólo a mejorar su propia vida, sino la de otros.

La curiosidad innata que Rosa posee, así como su profundo deseo de ayudar a otros la llevó a convertirse en entrenadora certificada de Programación Neuro Lingüística. Con esto, ella ha trabajado exitosamente con varios deportistas a que logren hacer cambios que han mejorado su desempeño en su juego y por lo tanto, sus resultados. También ha entrenado maestros en estas técnicas para que puedan asistir a sus alumnos a que aprendan de una mejor manera.

Con una licenciatura en mercadeo y dos maestrías, y más de 20 años de carrera exitosa en el sector corporativo, Rosa sintió la necesidad de ir por su sueño más grande: ayudar a otros a llevar una mejor vida. Convertirse en una Coach de Mars Venus le ha dado las herramientas y técnicas que le permiten asistir a sus clientes a alcanzas sus objetivos.

Adicional al Coaching, Rosa también es facilitadora de seminarios y talleres enfocados en mejorar relaciones, tanto personales, como en el lugar de trabajo.

Rosa María Botrán is the type of person that has always looked for ways to help other people. One experience in particular taught her a great lesson: Be aware – you never know whose life you are going to touch.

This had prompted her to acquire new programs and learn new techniques to assist other people in creating a better life. She has attended many personal development seminars, which have helped her improve her own life as well as those of others in a very positive way.

Rosa´s natural curiosity and drive to help people led her to become an NLP trainer. She utilized this to successfully coach sports people to make changes within themselves in order to improve their ‘game’ performance, and she’s trained teachers to assist their students in learning new methods to better learning skills.

With a degree in Marketing, two MBAs, and after more than 20 years of working successfully in the corporate world, Rosa felt the need to pursue her real passion – that of helping people lead better lives.

Becoming a Mars Venus Coach has given her the additional tools and skills to help others create the life they dream of and deserve by utilizing the latest coaching techniques to assist her clients in achieving their goals.

Aside from direct coaching, Rosa facilitates workshops and seminars to improve relationships, both personally and within the work place.

Thursday, October 28th, 2010

Do you feel constantly stressed out and on edge?
Or are you tired of your partner having a short fuse with you?
Is stress negatively affecting your relationships?  Are you constantly arguing?
Are you feeling tired and fatigued all the time?
Are you having difficulty falling and staying asleep?
Is stress making you sick or causing you to gain weight?
Are you having trouble concentrating?
Are you moody and irritable much of time?

Our bodies were never designed to be under the amount of constant stress we find ourselves experiencing in today’s world.  Now imagine for a moment, if you knew why men and women reacted so negatively under stress and how to practice “safe stress”.  What it would be like if you and your partner understood how to better cope with stress yourselves, and how to help the other cope with stress more effectively as well.  What would it look like?  How would it feel to have a warm, loving and supportive relationship once again?  To not be anxious all the time or to feel like you are walking on eggshells?  How would it feel to be in a relationship in which you truly felt supported, understood and nurtured?  This doesn’t have to live only in your imagination.  It can be your reality.  You can have a less stressful life and a more satisfying relationship if you are willing to learn what it takes.


For the First Time Ever!
Now, for the first time, our “Why Mars & Venus Collide…How Men and Women Cope With Stress Differently” eWorkshop is available online.  In the past 8 months we’ve been bombarded with stories of doom and gloom relating to the economy.  One of the effects of this is the increasing amount of stress these financial worries are placing on our relationships.  In fact, financial stress is currently recognized as being one of the biggest problems in modern-day relationships; in part, because we don’t understand how men and women cope with stress differently.  And because we don’t understand the differences, we tend to misinterpret them.  And this often leads to misunderstandings and no-so-pleasant arguments.

Based on Dr. John Gray’s newest book, “Why Mars & Venus Collide”, this online eWorkshop is a fun, entertaining, and informative look at stress, including:

  • • The negative effects of adrenaline and cortisol.
  • • Why men and women respond to stress differently.
  • • Practical ideas that can help men and women reduce stress for each other and themselves.
  • • The role of the hormones testosterone and oxytocin in reducing stress.

This is a great workshop for individuals or couples alike.
The 5-session eWorkshop is presented live by a certified Mars Venus Success Coach, and supported with PowerPoint slides, video clips from some of Dr. Gray’s former sessions or workshops, theory, skills and interactive workshop exercises.  You’ll receive strategies, tips, and the tools you’ll need to reduce the stress in your life, and to help your partner do the same.  You’ll even receive a certificate of completion.

Click the banner above for more information.

Mars Venus Coaching E-Workshop; “On a Date”

Tuesday, October 26th, 2010


Does the mere idea of dating make you nervous?
Do you find it difficult to confidently approach the opposite sex?
Is flirting a foreign language for you?
Has it been months (even years) since you went out on a date?
Or has it been months (even years) since you were dating someone special?

Imagine for a moment, that getting a date was easy. What would it look like? How would it feel to be excited about having a date on Saturday night? To be dating someone you were truly excited about, someone that made your pulse race and your palms sweat. This doesn’t have to live only in your imagination. It can be your reality. Dating someone special is within your grasp. That is, if you are willing to learn what it takes to date successfully.


For the First Time Ever!
Now, for the first time, our Mars Venus – “On a Date” eWorkshop is available online. The new challenge of dating is to find a partner who will not only be supportive of our physical needs for survival and security, but will also support our emotional, mental, and spiritual needs as well. It is no longer enough to just find someone who is willing to marry us – we want partners who will love us more as they get to know us. We want to live happily ever after. In order to find and recognize partners who can fill our new needs for increased intimacy, good communication, and a great love life – we need to update our dating skills.

The Mars Venus “On a Date” is a 5-week online eWorkshop designed for singles and dating couples who are interested in finding true and lasting love. Married couples who want to rekindle the romance of dating will also benefit greatly from this practical guide. By reviewing the elements of a great date and putting them into practice, you can once again experience the passion and romance experienced at the beginning of the relationship. The 5-session eWorkshop is presented live by a certified Mars Venus Success Coach, and supported with PowerPoint slides, video clips from some of Dr. Gray’s former sessions or workshops, theory, skills and interactive workshop exercises. You’ll receive strategies, tips, and the tools you’ll need to succeed at dating. You’ll even receive a certificate of completion. You’ll learn:

  • • How to successfully navigate through the five stages of dating
  • • How to attract the right person for you
  • • How to make sure you don’t unwittingly turn off the opposite sex
  • • How to make sure your partner stays interested
  • • Warning signals to avoid getting involved with the wrong person
  • • How to bring out the best in your partner
  • • When and how to create the four levels of intimacy – physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual
  • • How to make up, so you don’t break up
  • • The different reasons men and women decide to get married
  • • How to prepare for a marriage made in heaven

5 weekly sessions for only $298 (that’s just $59.60 per session). Each weekly session lasts approximately one hour.

visit http://marsvenusworkshops.com for more information